Life can be an odd thing with people coming in and out of it each effecting you in different ways. I sometimes wonder if what they teach me i stat everyone leaves eventually just ilk someday you will leave someone .
Every time someone comes into your life enjoy it and be happy as you never know this could be the person you spend all of your life talking with and laughing at their rubbish jokes. Sometimes people come into your life simply to leave it and then eventually you will forget them.
I am about to embark on the brilliant GCSEs and in 6 weeks I won’t see many of my friends as they go off to other colleges and 6th forms whilst I stay with the others. I will be saying goodbye to people who have effected my life for around three years and next september more people will come into it. I don’t think they will replace those who have left but they will simply be different you can never replace people like for like and if you can then maybe they weren’t that important in the place.
Recently one of my friends from Australia contacted me and we have reconnected and i haven’t laughed at memories so much in such short time before and I know that he hasn’t been replaced and he won’t replace someone. My life has involved a lot of coming and going and moving and leaving so i have made friends quickly and lost them just as fast. I understand that not everyone is in your life to stay forever and someone who is your best friend or the most important person to you know may not be in 10 years. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t cherish those in you rife at the moment as in the future they may make a reappearance and you’ll want amazing memories to look back at instead of regrets.
Teen to teen out
I am currently having to chose what A levels I wan to do and am contemplating my future.
My gut is telling me one thing but my head and everyone else is telling me to do something different. People are telling me where to go to 6th form, A level choices, wether I should go to university or not and what job I should to.
My current plan is to stay at my school for 6th form and do English literature, history and RE for A level stand then go to New York to do some courses in Cookery and hopefully become a chef. For some reason I see this as such an easy route as i find it all easy to do and it isn’t challenging.
Other people are telling me to go to university and become a teacher and to do a 9-5 job (which being a chef is definitely not)and live my life that way. My parent don’t help with this as my mum studied law and is now an interior designer and my dad studied economics and now owns a bike cafe so neither of them have stuck to what they studied.
Plus all of my friend are going through the science and maths route which is what I feel that I should do as that is what I find difficult and challenging so therefore that is what I should do.
Please help mea and I really hope I ca help you.
Teen to teen out.
Recently at work we had an agency chef come in who made me feel uncomfortable and frustrated. I fact this is the only person in the 3 years I have worked there to make me cry.
Throughout my shift this man would pay my head saying that he was proud of how well someone of my age could do as a chef. The chef the went on to say that he shouldn’t be to surprised I can cook as I’m a girl so therefore it’s in my DNA. Obviously this wasn’t fun to work with for an 8 hour shift especially as he was 1 1/2 hours late to work and also blamed me for everything he did wrong.
This particular man made me cry after 6 hours the last straw being him trying to change a dish that was actually my own recipe for the menu. As I said before this is the only time I’ve cried in the 3 years I worked in the kitchen and is also the only time I questioned wether I wanted to be a chef in the future.
I wanted to share this with you as I think it’s horrible how just one person can make us consider not following our dream and make us question everything we stand for. I wanted you to know that everyone has those moments but what makes this moment just a hiccup and not a life changing decision is how you deal with it. Sometimes having a cry and a rant to a family member or friend (try to avoid work colleagues) is the best option as they can give you advice instead of bottling it up inside. You just have to remember this is one person in your life, one inconsequential person who could be just another name in the sea of people you’ve met or it could be the person you tell your kids about as they are the ones that made you question yourself.
Please comment and feel free to email me if you want help or someone to talk to. (email@example.com)
Teen to teen out
They look down at your arm
you notice their alarm.
“Where did you get that?”
“It was just my cat.”
Then you walk away trying not to cry
another day of living the lie.
Until one day someone realises
pulls up their sleeve and sympathises.
“I have a cat too,
theirs a lot of people like me and you.”
They begin to help you through the bad times
making you realise your thoughts aren’t crimes.
Till one day your cat is no more
but your nightmares still their when they close the door.
The memories from the past
in your head there to last.
The urges subside
So that your enemy is no longer your own life.
I just wanted you to know that I did write this one night when I was bored but I felt like I had to share it with you. I wanted you to all know that i have had years of harmful thoughts and that they are sill there but thanks to some great friends they have subsided.
Obviously not everyone who reads this is harming themselves mentally or physically but the majority of you will know someone who does even if you don’t know so yet. Sadly there aren’t any statistics for this issue as often nobody knows it is happening to someone until they ask for help or have to get help once it has gone to far. I wanted you to know that I am here for support or any questions you have on how to deal with it yourself or how to help someone else.
I also wanted to say that lots of people get bullied if their scars are accidentally revealed which then leads to them spiralling downward quicker. I know this personally as once in PE i had forgotten my jumper so couldn’t hide my scars which lead to people accusing me of being an attention seeker and rumours going around the school of why I had these scars. Sometimes people “accidentally” show their scars as they are screaming of help so therefore in a kind and polite way you should offer your support.
I’m sorry for this being so long but it is a topic that I am passionate about.
As always, and even more so with this topic, please comment and as I now it is a touchy subject feel free to email me ( firstname.lastname@example.org ) and I will get back to you within 1-2 days.
Teen to teen out