Don’t let it get to you

Recently at work we had an agency chef come in who made me feel uncomfortable and frustrated. I fact this is the only person in the 3 years I have worked there to make me cry.

Throughout my shift this man would pay my head saying that he was proud of how well someone of my age could do as a chef. The chef the went on to say that he shouldn’t be to surprised I can cook as I’m a girl so therefore it’s in my DNA. Obviously this wasn’t fun to work with for an 8 hour shift especially as he was 1 1/2 hours late to work and also blamed me for everything he did wrong.

This particular man made me cry after 6 hours the last straw being him trying to change a dish that was actually my own recipe for the menu. As I said before this is the only time I’ve cried in the 3 years I worked in the kitchen and is also the only time I questioned wether I wanted to be a chef in the future.

I wanted to share this with you as I think it’s horrible how just one person can make us consider not following our dream and make us question everything we stand for. I wanted you to know that everyone has those moments but what makes this moment just a hiccup and not a life changing decision is how you deal with it. Sometimes having a cry and a rant to a family member or friend (try to avoid work colleagues) is the best option as they can give you advice instead of bottling it up inside. You just have to remember this is one person in your life, one inconsequential person who could be just another name in the sea of people you’ve met or it could be the person you tell your kids about as they are the ones that made you question yourself.

Please comment and feel free to email me if you want help or someone to talk to. (from1teen2another@gmail.com)

Teen to teen out
Xx

Harmful thoughts don’t have to lead to harm

They look down at your arm
you notice their alarm.
“Where did you get that?”
“It was just my cat.”
Then you walk away trying not to cry
another day of living the lie.
Until one day someone realises
pulls up their sleeve and sympathises.
“I have a cat too,
theirs a lot of people like me and you.”
They begin to help you through the bad times
making you realise your thoughts aren’t crimes.
Till one day your cat is no more
but your nightmares still their when they close the door.
The memories from the past
in your head there to last.
The urges subside
So that your enemy is no longer your own life.

 

I just wanted you to know that I did write this one night when I was bored but I felt like I had to share it with you. I wanted you to all know that i have had years of harmful thoughts and that they are sill there but thanks to some great friends they have subsided.

Obviously not everyone who reads this is harming themselves mentally or physically but the majority of you will know someone who does even if you don’t know so yet. Sadly there  aren’t any statistics for this issue as often nobody knows it is happening to someone until they ask for help or have to get help once it has gone to far. I wanted you to know that I am here for support or any questions you have on how to deal with it yourself or how to help someone else.

I also wanted to say that lots of people get bullied if their scars are accidentally revealed which then leads to them spiralling downward quicker. I know this personally as once in PE i had forgotten my jumper so couldn’t hide my scars which lead to people accusing me of being an attention seeker and rumours going around the school of why I had these scars. Sometimes people “accidentally” show their scars as they are screaming of help so therefore in a kind and polite way you should offer your support.

I’m sorry for this being so long but it is a topic that I am passionate about.

As always, and even more so with this topic, please comment and as I now it is a touchy subject feel free to email me ( from1teen2another@gmail.com ) and I will get back to you within 1-2 days.

Teen to teen out
xx

 

 

I wonder

Sometimes I wonder just how important my opinions, thoughts and ideas. As I write these posts I wonder wether any of you relate of care about whenever I spill my heart out.

I have also had some thoughts as someone form school found this blog and threatened to share it around which wouldn’t be good as then people would realise what I really thought of all the rubbish situations I’ve been in and all the things I’ve hidden form my past. Due to this I have made my blog anonymous and have gone though comments that use my full name etc. and elected them and have changed my username and email address for you to contact me at. This isn’t as I’m ashamed of this blog I just don’t want there to be another thing that can be used against me at school. I hope you understand.

as always comment, share and email me @ from1teen2another@gmail.com as I love hearing your opinions and stories and I will always reply to you.

Teen to teen out x

 

 

No cry shaming

Crying about something that happens I your past doesn’t make you weak. It shows that your strong as it is in your past and your still here and have moved on. Everyone cries at some point in their life no matter what it’s about and I don’t think we should ever shame someone that is crying. 
I personally hate it when a guy sees me cry and insult think I’m on my period. I mean I could be or maybe I’m just having a shit day and need to release it somehow. I hate that guys laugh at guys when they cry or open up saying that their now a lesser man. I think a guy that sometimes cries is a good thing as it shows that they have the humanity to feel the emotions like everyone else. 
I cry sometimes for no reason but unite often it’s due to a really sad moment in my life that I have no other way of dealing with of when I have a nightmare my instant reaction is to scream and cry to get help. I don’t cry to always get sympathy or for attention I do it as that is a human way of dealing with certain things. 
Please never be ashamed of anything you do no matter who laughs you or who shames you into thinking your anything less than you are as everyone in this planet is special and unique. Just remember when you cry there’s probably hundreds of others crying somewhere in the world as well. 
Please comment and email. 
Teen to teen out

Xx

Why I love the Internet

Why I love the Internet
When I turn on my phone I can connect with anyone. My friends from half way around the world,blog to you guys or watch YouTube and when I turn it off I sometimes get that lonely feeling. 
The great thing is though that it’s still there when you feel lonely or sad or just want a laugh unlike an actual person who could be busy. 
I’ve had so many lonely times with me des overhung exactly how I want to present myself and friends and as both my parents work so hard it means that I can’t talk to them a lot. This makes my situation worse as then I keep it all inside and then explode. 
So please you this and other platforms to help each other and yourself by leaving comments etc. 
Teen to teen out

Xx

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No cry shaming

Crying about something that happens I your past doesn’t make you weak. It shows that your strong as it is in your past and your still here and have moved on. Everyone cries at some point in their life no matter what it’s about and I don’t think we should ever shame someone that is crying. 
I personally hate it when a guy sees me cry and insult think I’m on my period. I mean I could be or maybe I’m just having a shit day and need to release it somehow. I hate that guys laugh at guys when they cry or open up saying that their now a lesser man. I think a guy that sometimes cries is a good thing as it shows that they have the humanity to feel the emotions like everyone else. 
I cry sometimes for no reason but unite often it’s due to a really sad moment in my life that I have no other way of dealing with of when I have a nightmare my instant reaction is to scream and cry to get help. I don’t cry to always get sympathy or for attention I do it as that is a human way of dealing with certain things. 
Please never be ashamed of anything you do no matter who laughs you or who shames you into thinking your anything less than you are as everyone in this planet is special and unique. Just remember when you cry there’s probably hundreds of others crying somewhere in the world as well. 
Please comment and email. 
Teen to teen out

Xx

What this blog is about

I’ve recently been thinking about posting every Monday but realised this blog isn’t like that. I blog things and write when something in my life effects me positively or negatively so that I can share that experience with you. This can mean there will be weeks were I don’t post or days I post multiple times but life’s like that. You don’t get to decide tags every Monday something life changing is going to happen to you. 
So I know you probably don’t care about this but I just wanted to tell you that this is genuinely me as someone at my school found this and happens to be the cause of many of these posts and said that none of this happened. I don’t agree as this is true fully how I’m affected by others so I will continue posting sporadically as that means I’m staying to the genuineness of the blog which is how I want it to stay. 
Please comment and email me
Teen to teen out

Xx

No cry shaming

Crying about something that happens I your past doesn’t make you weak. It shows that your strong as it is in your past and your still here and have moved on. Everyone cries at some point in their life no matter what it’s about and I don’t think we should ever shame someone that is crying. 
I personally hate it when a guy sees me cry and insult think I’m on my period. I mean I could be or maybe I’m just having a shit day and need to release it somehow. I hate that guys laugh at guys when they cry or open up saying that their now a lesser man. I think a guy that sometimes cries is a good thing as it shows that they have the humanity to feel the emotions like everyone else. 
I cry sometimes for no reason but unite often it’s due to a really sad moment in my life that I have no other way of dealing with of when I have a nightmare my instant reaction is to scream and cry to get help. I don’t cry to always get sympathy or for attention I do it as that is a human way of dealing with certain things. 
Please never be ashamed of anything you do no matter who laughs you or who shames you into thinking your anything less than you are as everyone in this planet is special and unique. Just remember when you cry there’s probably hundreds of others crying somewhere in the world as well. 
Please comment and email. 
Teen to teen out

Xx

Pondering thoughts

Ever have that feeling where you just sit there and think about everything. 
I had the most boring science lesson today (even though all science lessons are) and I sat there staring at the textbook thinking of friends,blogs , cupcake ideas, song lyrics and lots of useless but important stuff until I then got tapped on the head and given a detention. (Whoops). 
This lead me to think of all the times (mainly in class) where you just sit there and think about anything except what you should be thinking about. I had my jabs (vaccines) on Monday and as my last name begins with S I was last meaning I had to see everyone leave both crying and happy and the when I got there I was told I had to take my shirt off as the couldn’t roll my sleeve up and let’s just say I was sitting in a room of guys have stuff injected into my are with no top on (my new most embarrassing moment) and I just thought of everything only to realise I had actually been singing the whole time causing the guy I front of me )who had been staring at my chest the whole time) to laugh. 
So please comment your most embarrassing moment or email me them if they are so embarrassing or anytime that you’ve zoned out in class. 
Teen to teen out

Xx
PS I’m seeing Shawn Mendes and 5SOS soon. Yay